Choosing a Wedding Officiant

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This is the one area where the bridal couples prefer to cut corners.  While the wedding officiant usually is the least expensive part of the wedding, one should be cautious in choosing their wedding officiant.  Often times, the cost reflects experience.  Many professionals will have specials for specific times of the year.  Yet, when you are making a last minute decision choices are often not as plentiful as the bridal couple would like.

Every year there are panicked couples, scouring at the last minute to find a legal, experienced wedding officiant to cover for them.  Their first choice may be having a friend ordained over the internet only to discover the proper channels were not followed and they can not be recognized by the state in which they are to be married.   Maybe Uncle _____ is ordained, went through the proper channels, only to discover when he is confronted by 80 pairs of eyes starring at him, he freezes.

Choosing a Wedding Officiant

It is often a good idea to get a contract from your wedding officiant.  If the wedding officiant does not have a contract chances are they do not do weddings for a living and experience may be limited to 10 a year.  The contract should protect you from being left at the alter without an officiant to legalize the ceremony.  If you do not have a contract, at least protect yourself by having a second and third choice available to call.

Choosing a Wedding Officiant

Why choose a professional wedding officiant over your best friend who decided to become ordained?  Experience.

  • A professional wedding officiant does weddings as his or her main job.A professional wedding officiant offers a contract for your protection.
  • A professional wedding officiant’s contract will cover him/her in case an act of God prevents them from showing up as contracted.
  • A professional wedding officiant will customize your ceremony.
  • A professional wedding officiant will have a website where reviews can be read, or photos can be shown.
  • A professional wedding officiant will be easy to contact, either by email or telephone.

My best advice is never hand over money without a contract.  This is a protection for you with each of your wedding vendors and includes the wedding officiant.

How to find the Right Ohio Wedding Officiant for you! Part 3

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            Now, you are ready to begin interviewing your Ohio Wedding Officiants.  When you email or leave a message, please, leave the date, time, and location or venue of your wedding.  It is a very good idea to include your fiancé and your names.

            Be prepared with the questions and answers that you and your fiancé went over, along with other ideas, concerns and if you have pictures to help convey the overall vision, that is good, too.  This is the time to ask questions, a LOT of questions.

            Assumptions are not a good trait.  You want the wedding officiant and your vision to compliment each other.  Ask questions, and again I can not stress enough, a lot of questions.

1.  Is it legal to be married where the ceremony is taking place?  You should have the knowledge as to whether your officiant is registered in the State of Ohio.  If you do not have this information, ask to see their certificates and diplomas.  Take the name off the certificate and look it up on the Secretary of States website.

Outdoor weddings are beautiful; make sure it is legal to for your wedding to be held a wedding in that specific location.  Make sure you have the permits needed for use of a city, county, state or national park.

2.  Is your venue in the allotted distance of you wedding officiants travel preference?  Not all wedding officiants will travel without adding on a travel fee.     Be precise giving the address and directions to your wedding officiant, ask if they will travel to the destination or will you need to find another wedding officiant?  Ask if they will travel for rehearsal, also.  Questions such as:  Have you done an outdoor wedding before? Have you been to our chosen venue? Will you travel to our venue without additional travel fees?  These questions are important to ask.

3. Does the wedding officiant come with recommendations, experience, or training?  Recommendations are important; they allow you to know what others thought of the wedding officiant.  Remember, they probably will not give you any referrals that are dissatisfied.  Do your research through the web, word of mouth, social networking.  The quality of your ceremony is the vital result.  Again training, experience, and referrals offer you the information you seek.

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4.  Do you want the officiant to give you the opportunity to read the ceremony, so you can make changes if you choose?  This is imperative for me to receive, returned to me at least a week before the wedding ceremony.  I want my couple to know what I am going to say.

            To discover that your wedding officiant will not make changes you deem necessary, may leave you in a rush to choose a new officiant and is not what you want to happen.  For example, if a wedding officiant inserts a few surprises for you, such as a wife should stay home and cook while a man supports her and the family, can really devastate your ceremony and possibly insult Aunt LouAnna who supports her family while Uncle Tony stays home to raise their four boys.

            It is important that everyone know the lines and are comfortable with the scene as it will play in front of the live audience during the actual wedding ceremony.

5.  Do you want a ceremony written especially for you, or is a cookie cutter service ok for you?  Is it essential to you to have a service unique and one of a kind?  Religious officiants are often restricted with ceremony content.  Other wedding officiants have a standard ceremony they stick to with little changes.

            I offer my couples my favorite wedding service and suggest they add or take away from it, if they do not want me to write a custom service for them.  My choice is to leave the words, “…until death do us part” out of the service all together.  I have never cared for those words; why bring up death at a joyous celebration of new beginnings, so I leave them out.

            For those who want a quick, ‘I do’ before their reception, a standard ceremony is all you need.  What ever you decide, you need to hire the wedding officiant that will work with you, blend your traditions, and tie the legal knot for you.

6.  Ask the wedding officiant to outline from your first meeting to the final ceremony, his or her process.  You need to know how your wedding officiate will handle the timeline for creating your service.  This is vital if you have programs printed.  You will need to know if you will need to delve into any part of the research or if the wedding officiant will do all the work required and make a draft for your approval.  You will also want final say on the polished service.

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7.  Do you want the wedding officiant to be at the rehearsal?  Do we have to be at the rehearsal?  No.  With that being said, you need to realize if the wedding officiant has never done a specific part of your wedding, they, too, will need a rehearsal. The more complex your wedding ceremony, or for a larger wedding party, it is suggested you ask for and receive a rehearsal.  If your ceremony is simple, or short and sweet, no rehearsal is required.  Remember this is your day, you have prepared for this as if it is an opening on Broadway.  Don’t short change yourself by cutting corners and not have a rehearsal.  Everyone should know their lines, where they should stand, and how to walk down the isle.  Nerves will make your speed things up when they should be taken slow, practice will put you more at ease.  Discuss this at the first meeting, as your officiant will need to schedule the rehearsal, too.  The rehearsal can be done the week prior to the actual ceremony.

8.  Should you by pass a wedding officiant because they have never done a _________ before?  If you want a flash mob processional or the harlem shake for your recessional, just because your wedding officiant has never done one does not mean you should find another minister.  Only if they are not open to idea should they be swapped out for a more whimsical minister.  Make sure your wedding officiant is comfortable with everything you want to incorporate into the ceremony.   They may need to discuss with other officiants they network with for assistance in the choreography, but your whimsical wedding officiant will be more than happy to do the research and the chance to do a ceremony with a different flavor.

            Other first time events might be a handfasting, jumping the broom, or a costumed theme wedding.  (My medieval gypsy costume is ready for its next adventure.)  Again, discuss this at the first meeting.  Time will be needed to research and know how to make it flow smoothly.

9.  Should you have a contract with your wedding officiant or minister?  Yes!  You should have a folder with all your contracts from all of your vendors.  This does include a contract with your wedding officiant or minister.  You want to be sure if anything comes up and your wedding officiant can not hold your ceremony, that 1) a replacement minister will take his/her place or 2) your money is refunded so you can find a last minute minister to fill the void.  This contract also protects the minister, just in case something comes up and you have to cancel the wedding.  Emergencies happen, and with a military couple deployment happens.

10. Does the wedding officiant have a contract?  Can I read it first?  Yes and Yes.  Once you are comfortable with the minister and have asked what his/her fee is, ask for a contract.

11.  Why does the wedding officiant cost so much?  Everything is relative.  Reflect on what you are paying for:  the investment of time and energy the wedding officiant will put into your ceremony and weigh it alongside the fee.  Remember, it takes 45 hours approximately with the custom service, vows, etc to be written, travel time, rehearsal, meetings, possible research on the venue or the venue location, and last but definitely not least this is the part of your wedding day that makes you married.  Also take into consideration whether the wedding officiant is supplying a PA system for the ceremony.  Each added benefit needs to be weighed and measured.

I am sure I forgot something, for there is a lot to go over from several points of view.  Ask questions.  Make sure you get what you want for your ceremonial service.  Read the contract(s).  Enjoy, and Breathe!

Want To Use This Article In Your Ezine or Website? You have my permission, as long as you include this complete blurb with it: Rev. Cindy Lee is a web designer, an inter-faith minister and shamanic practitioner. She is a minister registered in the state of Ohio, and conducts weddings and commitment ceremonies. You can visit Rev. Cindy Lee, access her free article archive, and grab some free stuff at http://OhioWeddingOfficiants.com and http://revcindylee.com .  Rev. Cindy Lee lives on a farm in south western Ohio with her family, two cats, one wild hound beagle and one guard dog westie, while offering spiritual development classes and being an Ohio Wedding Officiant.

 

How to find the Right Ohio Wedding Officiant for you! Part 2 of 3

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Your fiancé and you need to share the vision of your wedding day.  It is normal for one half of the couple to be more gung-ho at planning while the other is agreeable.  Figuring out what your wedding looks, feels, and sounds like to you is the first part of your ceremonial prep.

1.  What type of ceremony do you want?  If you plan a religious ceremony, an alternative ceremony, or a secular ceremony, the choice of possible officiants will narrow.  If, your fiancé and you are of different faiths, you may want to have two officiants or an officiant who will blend your two faiths as in an inter-faith minister.  Should you desire an alternative ceremony such as Wiccan or other earth based religions, again this will narrow your choices, as well as a secular without religion or God mentioned at all.  Ohio Wedding Officiants have an assortment of officiants that are ready and willing to help you with your ceremony.

2.  Where do we want our wedding to be held?   There are many options.  You might choose to have your wedding at the site of the reception, or in a park, on a farm, at the beach or in your own backyard.  Some religious officiants and government officials may not work outside of their place of worship or office, thus narrowing down your choice of officiants, yet again.

3.  Is it your preferred choice of a male or female officiant?  When you close your eyes and envision your wedding, what gender is the wedding officiant?  If, it is significant to you to have a man or woman exclusively, then you probably will not be content with somebody else.

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4.  What is without a doubt a must have in your ceremony?  This might be having your grandmother act as your flower girl, or a specific poem read by your cousin.  List making is very important, because you do not want to forget special details.  Knowing the answer to these questions will help you convey your vision to the wedding officiant version of your vision.

5.  What specifically do you not want in your ceremony?  Maybe you do not want a unity candle or sand in your ceremony.  Put this on a ‘do NOT want’ list.  Because when others begin sharing ideas, your fiancé and you may get wishy washy and give in.  If it is down in the do not want list, then you, both, will know that you will not negotiate on that item.  Other things you might not want may include writing your own vows and reading them, or God mentioned, or maybe you want God included but the ‘until death do us part’ left out.  Again, make a list.

6.  Do you want to write your own sermon, vows, and will you need help doing that?  You will need an officiant who will be willing to use your service, or create space within his or her service for your vows.  If you know what you want to say, yet are concerned the right words will not flow, you’ll officiant will assist you with finding the words of your heart.  This is an area of the ceremony you will need to acknowledge how much control you really want verses what you desire to delegate to the officiant.

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7.  How much control do you want over what the Wedding Officiant puts into the ceremony?  Not all words are the same.  Are you comfortable being surprised by your wedding service?  Weddings, like marriages, are made of different ideas.  How much control do you want in the words of your service?

8.  Now, with that discussed, does your fiancé and you have different thoughts about your ceremony?  You might need a wedding officiant that can put the different thoughts into a beautiful ceremony, and bring forth a poise of your combined vision.

9.  How significant is your ceremony compared to the entire wedding day?  What is the budget for your ceremony?  Your ceremony is the reason for the entire day.  Many wedding planners suggest $300 or less for your wedding location, officiant, chuppah and extras.  Yet, recommend $700 for a cake and $1,500 for flowers.  Allow your priorities to lead you to the budget of your Wedding Officiant, really, should the smallest investment be when you tangibly get married and the professional you entrusted with your fiancé’s and your ceremony?

            The wedding ceremony is the best moment before the wedding night.  Consider the part of your wedding day that you will remember on your first anniversary and each year thereafter.  The moment you declared your love and made the formal commitment to one another, it is the only part of the ceremony that is about your fiancé and you only.

            Bear in mind, you get what you pay for.  The Wedding Officiant is something that needs to be considered, and not skimped on.  Even if your officiant of choice asks for a donation, remember how much time he/she put into your ceremony behind the scenes.  The average time put into a custom ceremony is about forty five hours; this is from the initial contact until the certificate is filed after the ceremony with the courthouse.  Tip generously.

10.  GLBT couples:  This will definitely affect your wedding plans in the State of Ohio.  In Ohio your wedding commitment will not be legal.  Ohio is not a marriage equality state.  If you want a legal marriage at this time, you will need to research which states are marriage equality states.  Again, all these questions apply, especially whether the officiant is authorized to perform a legal ceremony.

            I, Rev. Cindy Lee, will happily conduct a Holy Union for you and your partner.  WHEN, the State of Ohio moves into the 21st century and recognizes your union, contact me and I will sign your marriage license at that time at no additional fee.

 Want To Use This Article In Your Ezine or Website? You have my permission, as long as you include this complete blurb with it: Rev. Cindy Lee is a web designer, an inter-faith minister and shamanic practitioner. She is a minister registered in the state of Ohio, and conducts weddings and commitment ceremonies. You can visit Rev. Cindy Lee, access her free article archive, and grab some free stuff at http://OhioWeddingOfficiants.com and http://revcindylee.com .  Rev. Cindy Lee lives on a farm in south western Ohio with her family, two cats, one wild hound beagle and one guard dog westie, while offering spiritual development classes and being an Ohio Wedding Officiant.

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How to find the Right Ohio Wedding Officiant for you! 

Ohio Wedding Officiants, Rev. Cindy Lee, Registered Ohio Minister, State of Ohio Registered Minister, Ohio Wedding Minister, Ohio Wedding Officiant, Miami county Ohio, Darke county Ohio, Alternative weddings, themed weddings, native american wedding ceremonyThis three part series provide questions only you can answer.  With your answers, the process will become easy for you to pick the perfect Ohio Wedding Officiant for your wedding ceremony.  These three parts will consist of an overview from the Wedding Officiant’s side of the story, questions to ask your future spouse before interviewing the wedding officiant, and how to pull your wedding vision together with the wedding officiant’s version of your vision.

            During my twenty years of experience I have discovered, usually, a bride is concerned whether I have the date and time open for her.  Yes, I do agree that is an important fact, but, the decision will need more information to make the best choice for an Ohio Wedding Officiant.  Some questions you might want to consider:  Does the Minister have experience doing weddings? Will the Minister create a unique ceremony?  Will the Minister do the ceremony where I want to get married, at my venue?  Will the Minister help you write your vows?  Will the Minister require you to take pre-marital counseling for six months before the wedding?  How much should I pay the person who will pronounce us as Mr. and Mrs?

How to find the Right Ohio Wedding Officiant for you!

            Another important question, and in 20 years I have never been asked, ‘Can you legally marry my fiancé and me?’  or ‘Are you registered with the State of Ohio?’  Did you know not all ministers or clergy can perform that role?  In the State of Ohio, they must be registered with the State of Ohio to legally provide this service.  With our website, it will be easy to research the registered wedding officiant because he or she will be registered with Ohio as a minister.  After that is verified, then move on to asking other important questions.

How to find the Right Ohio Wedding Officiant for you!

            Next important question would be to ask the Ohio Wedding Officiant, if the date is open.  Unless you are willing to change your date and time, this will be the first question to ask after verifying state registration.

            After the registration and date are verified and agreed upon, then you will want to focus on part 2 of this series.  Part two offers you questions for your fiancé and you to go over and decide the answers too.

Want To Use This Article In Your Ezine or Website? You have my permission, as long as you include this complete blurb with it: Rev. Cindy Lee is a web designer, an inter-faith minister and shamanic practitioner. She is a minister registered in the state of Ohio, and conducts weddings and commitment ceremonies. You can visit Rev. Cindy Lee, access her free article archive, and grab some free stuff at http://OhioWeddingOfficiants.com and http://provenpsychics.com/psychics/cindy-lee.  Rev. Cindy Lee lives on a farm in south western Ohio with her family, two cats, one wild hound beagle and one westie guard dog, while offering spiritual development classes and being a member of the Ohio Wedding Officiants. LIKE US on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OhioWeddingOfficiants

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How fortunate we found each other!  Please allow me to introduce myself.  My name is Cindy Carver or Rev. Cindy Lee.  I am a minister of 20 years.  Over the years, I noticed that off-site ministers or wedding officiants were more difficult to find.  I specialize in officiating alternative, themed, non-traditional, and GLBT weddings.  They are more popular now than ever.

Rev. Cindy Lee, Your Ohio Wedding Officiant

My Services include:

  • Rehearsals:  As your wedding officiant, I, Rev. Cindy Lee, am a believer that everyone should know what is expected of them.  As this is a show.  Everyone wants this to be a perfect event and therefore need to know their stage placement or lines.  The wedding ceremony is the climax of the show.
  • My Wedding Officiant Attire Choices:
    • Traditional black robe with gold tapestry stole –free
    • Traditional Métis (Native American) attire- free
    • Rustic Country style – free
    • Costume according to theme of wedding-$200
  • Fee:
    • Ceremony & Full Rehearsal – $300
    • Ceremony, Rehearsal, & Pre-Marital counseling – $500
      • 3 sessions -50 minutes each
    • Portable PA system – $60
  • Photographers and I get along very well.  While, I do not want them stepping in between the couple and myself, they are welcome to get all the shots the bride and groom have discussed.  I need to be informed of their placement as to not look surprised when the photographer steps close.  As your wedding officiant, I will caution them, this is their wedding day and not the photographer’s.  I simply request they act professional for the bride and groom’s sake, and not act like paparazzi.

Rev. Cindy Lee, Your Ohio Wedding Officiant

Based out of Ludlow Falls, Ohio, I service a 200 mile radius which includes the Columbus/Cincinnati/Toledo areas.  After the first 50 miles, there is a mileage fee of $1 per mile.  The two closest venues, to me, are The Willow Tree outside of Tipp City and Cooper Farms in Ludlow Falls.

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There will be a Bridal Expo at Cooper’s Farm will be Saturday January 25th and Sunday January 26th.  I will be there.  If you are interested in being a vendor, please email Veronica at veronicaammon (at) hotmail dot com and tell her I referred you.

Thank you for allowing me to introduce myself.   I look forward to working with you!
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Ohio Wedding Officiant, Ohio Weddings, Get married in Ohio, Springfield Brides, Springfield Bridal and Event Professionals, wedding minister, ohio wedding ministerYou planned and dreamed of your wedding day, for a long time.  Now, it is here, and so are the butterflies in your stomach. Here are a few strategies to turn your wedding day stress into wedding day bliss. Remember, the important thing at the end of the day, is the fact that you married the one you love!

  1. A relaxed bride is a beautiful bride.  Focus on good rest prior to the wedding day. The day is hectic, no matter how well you plan.  Being tired will add to your stress.  Have fun and enjoy the most important day, be rested.
  2. Keep all important documents together in one envelope. Use the front of the envelope to chart the contents.
  3. If you will travel abroad, make sure you have all your identification, passport, boarding pass, etc. in one placed.  Gather the documents together and put them in a marked envelop in a pocket of your carry-on.  This will be a safe and convenient place to stow them.
  4. Pack for your honeymoon several days before the wedding, preferably the weekend prior.  This will relieve stress on your wedding day.  Take time in the two weeks prior to your wedding to get things in order.
  5. A Wedding planner will have an oversized notebook with all the details for your wedding on a timeline.  Develop your own wedding planner notebook, write up a reasonable time plan. The times are approximate.  You want to be flexible, incase the hair appointment takes more time than planned.  Allow a leeway that includes leeway, for what should be happening prior to the wedding and approximately when. Be flexible and leave plenty of leeway to advert crisis
  6. Suppliers and service providers would not dream of letting you down. Our reputation and your wedding would be compromised. However, feel free to call your vendors a few days ahead of the wedding to avoid last minute mix-ups and or delays. Make a list of your vendors with the time they are scheduled to appear. It is a relief to know the arrival time of the photographer, florist, officiant, etc. Know your timeline and eliminate last minute concerns.  This can be put in your wedding planner notebook.
  7. For each service provide make a list that will help them make you shine.  For your photographer, a list of who you want in certain photos allows you to get the photo shots you want and save you the stress of being questioned about details.
  8. Eat light the day of your wedding, but do eat even if it is toast and tea, fruit or yogurt the morning of your Big Day! No one wants to pass out at the altar. It will be a long day, and food will settle your nerves, therefore adding to a stress free day.
  9. Alcohol and salty snacks can cause your fingers to swell making it difficult to slide your wedding rings on. (To make sure rings slide on easily wash them in soapy water prior to the ceremony). If you find that your rings do not go on easily, don’t force them. Just slide them as far as they will go and fake it. No one will notice.  It is a good idea to stay away from alcohol the day and night before.
  10.  Get outside, go for a walk or a jog, whatever you want to shake off the nerves and get some fresh air.  This really will help calm the jitters.
  11. Create the makeup kit before the wedding day.  Have everything you may need in one tote, include hair spray, deodorant, needle and thread, extra pantyhose, safety pins, two sided tape to fix a last minute hem, and nail polish for unexpected runs and a pair of slippers to wear at the reception.
  12. Assign your Maid of Honor or a Bridesmaid to keep check on your appearance so she can alert you if you need a touch up or something put back in place.
  13. More people surrounding you will create more opportunity for chaos. Choose friends and relatives with a calm presence to have nearby for support.  Allow them to keep others at bay and have a calming influence on you. Delegate. Assign someone to answer your phone. You need to be able to enjoy yourself and relax, not be bothered with every detail.
  14. Good posture is the foundation of good composure. You will walk, sit and move more gracefully when your body is in alignment.  You will appear to glide down the aisle as the wedding goddess you are! Think of a string attached to your spine, holding you in alignment yet allowing your shoulders and arms to relax.  Runway models have nothing on you!
  15.  Breathe!  Just Breathe! Practice taking long, slow, deep breaths. Short ones will make you dizzy and lightheaded. Good times to take a deep breathe or two, is just prior to your processional, even stop once or twice in the aisle for a deep breath (this allows for more photos of you looking gorgeous) and when you reach the altar. When your officiant begins to speak, take a nice deep breathe and relax.  Look at your future spouse, connect to one another. Be in the moment!  Enjoy this space you have come to in your hearts.
  16. Delegate your concerns.  If you are concerned about Gramma getting up the steps or pregnant LouAnna standing too long. Ask non bridal party individuals or the ushers to address these concerns and look out for your infirm guests. Again, the key is to delegate.
  17. Relax! Even if the band is late setting up or if the first dance doesn’t begin exactly on time. Don’t get excited if things take a little longer than expected. This is why you allowed leeway in your timeline.   You will only upset yourself if you do. Relax. Again Breathe! Everyone will have a great time and it doesn’t matter. The day will turn out fine.  Stay calm, happy and go with the flow. Make every memory from this day joyful and peaceful.  When you are calm, no one takes notice of the other stuff.
  18. Remember everything at the reception venue will have to be taken home and/or returned to the proper venue. Delegate who will do this for you, then make arrangements in advance. Remember wedding gifts, cards box, guest books, cameras, leftover cake, props, candle holders, etc. all need to be removed. Again, delegate.
  19. Take time from the reception to escape and share a few intimate moments with your new spouse. Sneak outside for a couple minutes, find a quiet corner to escape to and just be together quietly connect, and collect your thoughts.
  20. Breathe!  Just Breathe!